There are rumblings that Jennifer Aniston’s nuptials are on hold; but I am guessing you’ve still got a few weddings to attend this summer. So I present the second installment of The Wedding Series. We started with the Bridal Shower and now we take the plunge into The Bachelor/Bachelorette Party.
So you’ve sailed through the shower. You’re feeling good now, yes? You are confident, savvy, and ready for the wedding. But not so fast. Don’t forget the bachelor and/or bachelorette party, my friend. It’s go time. How to prepare? Here are a few tips:
- Try the Buddy System
If you are a newbie to the group, find someone in your same position and buddy up for the night. I usually don’t encourage globbing on (yes it IS so a word) to another human being, but in this situation, find a friend. It’s likely that someone else at the party is in your same spot, and being the odd man out doesn’t feel so odd if you’ve got a Batman to your Robin. Or a Tom to your Jerry. A Tonto to your Lone Ranger. Oh, how I could go on….
- Set Yourself Up For Success
Eat a decent meal, be conscious of your alcohol consumption, and when in doubt, don’t say “it” – whatever “it” might be. Really, why bring up Brad and Angelina when Jen is so obviously trying to move forward? Cocktails can give a false sense of bravado. So if you have an opinion about the groom, the dress, or the obnoxious maid-of-honor, keep it to yourself. Trust me.
- Remember Why You Are There
This is a night to celebrate the bride or groom, so do so. Make a heartfelt toast or find a moment to share a meaningful thought with the soon-to-be-married. Even something simple is enough: “I can tell how happy you are to be taking this step. Thank you for giving me the chance to celebrate with you.”
- Find Your Escape Hatch
There is no prize for being the last one at the party. Be prepared with cash for a cab, and decide beforehand what time you’d like to say sayonara. Then quickly and gracefully make your exit. “Girls, it’s been a pleasure! I’m headed out but so look forward to seeing you at the rehearsal dinner. Goodnight. Congratulations (bride) again!” Don’t sneak. I had a friend do this and her night ended up with the police knocking at her door; the group had been afraid that someone had snatched her from the ladies room. Oops. And you thought Jennifer Aniston had problems.