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Conversation Skills Lead to Fellowship
By Debra Fine

Do you dread meetings, parties and events where you do not know anyone? Does attending another open house make you want to run inside your own and lock the door? You’re not alone. Many of us feel apprehensive about these situations because most of us hate entering rooms where we don’t know anyone in them. Keeping a conversation going during social occasions can be an ordeal. Everyone learns technical skills required of their jobs, but not everyone places importance on conversational skills. The ability to talk easily with anyone is a learned skill, not a personality trait. Learning this will help you develop rapport with people and cultivate true fellowship.

Next time you attend a civic meeting, charity event or after church or synagogue services, look around the room. Reflect on the following poem before moving on to the rest of your day:

Thoughts from a New Member:
I see you at the meetings, But you never say hello.
You’re busy all the time you’re there
With those you really know. I sit among the members,
Yet I’m a lonely gal. The new ones feel as strange as I,
The old ones pass us by. Darn it, you folks urged us to join
And talked of fellowship, You could just cross the room, you know,
But you never make the trip. Can’t you just nod your head and smile
Or stop and shake a hand, Then go sit among your friends?
Now that I’d understand. I’ll be at your next meeting,
And hope that you will spend the time to introduce yourself,
I joined to be your friend.

My book “The Fine Art of Small Talk” is a guidebook for conversation from the icebreaker to the exit line. Here are a few tips you can use to improve your small talk skills:

Every encounter involves risk. As long as you keep looking for new people to meet, and you show an interest in other people, you can make friends and enjoy lively conversations.

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