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Make the Most of Seasonal Mingling!
By Debra Fine

Do you dread holiday parties? Does attending another open house make you want to stay inside your office and lock the door? You’re not alone. Many of us feel apprehensive about these situations because most of us hate entering rooms where we know hardly anyone in them. Keeping a conversation going during these occasions can be an ordeal.

But these are opportunities to develop potential business relationships and broaden our networks. Whether you realize it or not, networking happens all the time.

Some people view small talk as inconsequential, but I contend that it’s the appetizer for every relationship. Small talk can turn a challenging situation during an awkward social gathering into a success. Small talk connects us, whether the setting is business or social.

Everyone learns technical skills required of their jobs, but not everyone places importance on conversational skills. The ability to talk easily with anyone is a learned skill, not a personality trait. Learning this will help you develop rapport with people and leave an impression that lasts longer than exchanging business cards.

Here are a few tips to improve your small talk skills:

Every encounter involves risk. As long as you keep looking for new people to meet, and you show an interest in other people, you can form new relationships, enjoy lively conversations, and just possibly come away with some new business.

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